As parents we all know that looking after our kids is the hardest job we have ever had to do. However, in saying this I realise that whilst it is on the top of our list of the most challenging things we have ever done, the one thing we are not considering is the number one priority and no. 1 job that we should be considering. That is looking after ourselves.
As a mother of 3 kids, I find myself working 24hrs a day to make sure that they have all their needs met. I make sure clothes are washed, food is available on request, sports games are attended, homework is done, toys can be found and fixed and the list goes on.
Well what I am learning as I get older is that if I don't look after myself and give myself ME TIME or US TIME for my husband and I then no matter how much I do for my children, I may end up resenting the life I have worked so hard to create.
The lesson here is that make sure you look after yourself as a Number 1 priority. I often hear the phrase by many husbands "Happy Wife, Happy Life" well I think they are 100% correct. If I am happy with my life and I am getting enough ME time to look after myself then I am happy to do all the things for my children that they need. The children will also feel much more relaxed and happy within their life.
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Tuesday, February 15, 2011
Wednesday, December 15, 2010
Tolerance!
Today I am writing about tolerance in the world. I read an article which spurred on a number of rants and arguements in facebook. The article was about whether children should be taken out to resturants or cafes with their parents. It went on to say that children disrupt others and that people with children should stay home or have coffee and meals at others homes. One comment was that Children should be seen and not heard!
I think the world needs to be more tolerant of others and understand that everyone has a right to go out. Not all children disrupt things. There are so many other things in this world to be concerned about.
I am a believer in discipline for children and that we should all learn to respect others as we grow up. What bothers me about this situation is that parents are being forced to hide from the public because they have children.
The sound of laughter and chatter of young children is a wonderful and innocent beauty. I am not saying that all kids are angels or that some don't need repremanding when they disturb others in cafes etc... What I am saying is that never judge a parent when a child acts out. Never judge until you have walked a mile in someone elses shoes.
More often than not when parents meet up at cafes with children in tow, it is usually one of the only times they get to go out and socialise and have some adult stimulation. In a world of so much pressure is it really necessary to condem parents who take their children out.
To all those selfish people who want to live in a world without children, maybe you should choose to stay home!
I think the world needs to be more tolerant of others and understand that everyone has a right to go out. Not all children disrupt things. There are so many other things in this world to be concerned about.
I am a believer in discipline for children and that we should all learn to respect others as we grow up. What bothers me about this situation is that parents are being forced to hide from the public because they have children.
The sound of laughter and chatter of young children is a wonderful and innocent beauty. I am not saying that all kids are angels or that some don't need repremanding when they disturb others in cafes etc... What I am saying is that never judge a parent when a child acts out. Never judge until you have walked a mile in someone elses shoes.
More often than not when parents meet up at cafes with children in tow, it is usually one of the only times they get to go out and socialise and have some adult stimulation. In a world of so much pressure is it really necessary to condem parents who take their children out.
To all those selfish people who want to live in a world without children, maybe you should choose to stay home!
Sunday, November 7, 2010
Time is our gift
Today I listened to the webinar from Happy Child with Michael Grose. I must say something that struck a chord with me was the constant promotion of ME TIME.
This is so important that I feel I need to blog about it.
Spending time for yourself or yourself and your partner should be a priority even before the kids at times. Remembering that this time has to be quality not just a rush job to get your hair done or nails painted before taxiing the kids from one event to the next. It should be dedicated time to "sit back and smell the roses" enjoying yourself.
We should make sure that this time is purely our own, not limited to 30 minutes between serving our kids. Kids need to learn that parents and carers need a rest sometimes, which does not include being constantly hassled for this or that. Kids have to learn to be independent and do things for themselves sometimes.
Never feel guilty about getting a sitter to care for your kids. It is actually a good thing to do. If you are constantly working for your kids you are going to burn out. Give yourself and your relationship with your partner the respect it deserves. We did not have children so we could forget about ourselves or our partner. We have them to share in the joy of our life. Life will change after we have kids but it does not have to end.
Put yourself 1st sometimes and see how things change. If you are happy and content then you may find your kids and family life will be a reflection of you.
Cheers
M
This is so important that I feel I need to blog about it.
Spending time for yourself or yourself and your partner should be a priority even before the kids at times. Remembering that this time has to be quality not just a rush job to get your hair done or nails painted before taxiing the kids from one event to the next. It should be dedicated time to "sit back and smell the roses" enjoying yourself.
We should make sure that this time is purely our own, not limited to 30 minutes between serving our kids. Kids need to learn that parents and carers need a rest sometimes, which does not include being constantly hassled for this or that. Kids have to learn to be independent and do things for themselves sometimes.
Never feel guilty about getting a sitter to care for your kids. It is actually a good thing to do. If you are constantly working for your kids you are going to burn out. Give yourself and your relationship with your partner the respect it deserves. We did not have children so we could forget about ourselves or our partner. We have them to share in the joy of our life. Life will change after we have kids but it does not have to end.
Put yourself 1st sometimes and see how things change. If you are happy and content then you may find your kids and family life will be a reflection of you.
Cheers
M
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